Don’t Let Fear Bite You in the Butt – 3 Ways to Tell If You’re Selling Out
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Here at the-Coaching Blog-run by Gerard O’Donovan, our aim is to constantly bring value to those seeking to improve their lives. Therefore we have a policy of publishing articles and materials by guest authors whom we value and appreciate. Today’s guest author is Lane Cobb (USA).
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to sell out on yourself when you are up to big stuff? Have you also noticed how hard it is sometimes to share with others what you are up to, because you do not want them to hold you accountable, even when you are sure it’s something you want or even need to do to make an impact, either in your own life or in the world at large. Whether you are changing careers, leaving a relationship, investing in your future, or altering the course of humanity, the degree to which you will have an impact is directly related to your ability and willingness to stay in action, regardless of what fears may threaten to knock us off the path.
Listen, there isn’t a person alive who has not sold out on themselves at one time or another. Being afraid of change is a natural part of life. It’s not at all useful and it’s a total pain in the butt, but it’s a part of life, nonetheless. The other thing about fear is that you may not recognize its presence until you have already sold out. It’s OK. Breathe! There is a solution, which is to learn to recognize the signs of selling out before you actually do it. I have listed three of them. I have also listed solutions for each of them, so read on…
3 Signs of Selling Out
Making Excuses – If you find yourself coming up with “reasons” and excuses why you can not or should not move forward (time and money are the two biggest culprits) you can be sure that fear is getting ready to bite you in the butt.
Clamming Up – If you notice that you are not sharing yourself as much as usual, being closed off, or avoiding having conversations about what you are up to, fear has already clamped down, and you’re really starting to feel it.
Getting Defensive – If you notice that you feel the need to defend your “reasons” for selling out or even getting nasty with anyone who dares to challenge them, fear has already taken a chunk out of your tender backside.
So, now that I have given you a few of the signs of selling out, you know what to look for. And, if you really want to be effective and make an impact in the world, you will have to not only watch for these signs, you will have to do whatever it takes to overcome your fear and move forward. Here are some suggestions for how you might do that:
Make a list of all your excuses, and see which ones hold water. Chances are that, if you are honest with yourself, you will find that none of them are really insurmountable, and if they are, ask yourself whether or not you are really committed to taking the actions you promised. If you are not willing to act in spite of your fear, chances are you were not ever really committed to doing what you said.
Instead of clamming up, talk about your concerns. Sharing with a friend or partner can often help to oil the wheels of creativity and get you back on track. It’s even better when you can share with someone who does not have their own agenda, like a coach or committed listener who will help you identify your concerns rather than give you advice.
Lastly, be open to the possibility. Fear of the unknown is a major stop for many people who are committed to creating change. Of course, it’s impossible to know what the future holds, but what’s true is that, regardless of the exact outcome, positive action yields positive results. Being open to possibility empowers you to take bigger actions and increases the potential impact of your actions in the world.
So, the next time you are out to make a change, whether in your own life or in the world, instead of letting fear bite you in the butt, put your butt on the line and stop selling out on your dreams!
About Lane Cobb
Lane is a Speaker, Transformational Author, and Spiritual Life Coach committed to helping women create more joy, freedom, prosperity, and authenticity in life. Creator of the “Intuitive Body Coaching Method”, Lane helps women connect with their divine essence and make right choices, so they can live their purpose and fulfil their rightful destiny. You may contact Lane at www.LaneCobb.com or call 443-756-8391.
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