There is no Permission in Overwhelm

[fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”no” equal_height_columns=”no” menu_anchor=”” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” class=”” id=”” background_color=”” background_image=”” background_position=”center center” background_repeat=”no-repeat” fade=”no” background_parallax=”none” parallax_speed=”0.3″ video_mp4=”” video_webm=”” video_ogv=”” video_url=”” video_aspect_ratio=”16:9″ video_loop=”yes” video_mute=”yes” overlay_color=”” video_preview_image=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” padding_top=”” padding_bottom=”” padding_left=”” padding_right=””][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ layout=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” border_position=”all” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” center_content=”no” last=”no” min_height=”” hover_type=”none” link=””][fusion_text]
Here at the-Coaching Blog-run by Gerard O’Donovan, our aim is to constantly bring value to those seeking to improve their lives. Therefore we have a policy of publishing articles and materials by guest authors whom we value and appreciate. Today’s guest author is Reginald G. Jackson, Sr. (USA).
We ask permission countless times a day. We do this at work, at home, at the store, or sometimes even with perfect strangers. If you have ever been in line at the register with only a few items, you may have asked the person in front of you if you could get ahead of them. I’m sure you can think of many other ways you ask for permission. Believe it or not, even requesting leave on your job is asking permission. On the other hand, there are probably just as many times during the day when you wish someone asked your permission. Instead, you are left with feelings of confusion, disrespect, maybe even anger. There is the car on the road that zipped in front of you or the coworker who took credit for your work without acknowledging your contribution! How about the neighbor who has guests over and they park in front of your mailbox, block your driveway, or park in your designated spot! If any of this has ever happened, you can more than likely relive the memory, to include the emotion(s) you experienced in that moment.
Permission is defined as “the right or ability to do something that is given by someone who has the power to decide if it will be allowed or permitted”.
If you have ever had so much going on, or so much to do you did not know where to start, you may have been overwhelmed. It’s the point where you feel stressed or confused. Some people even feel paralyzed and find it difficult to function. It’s a downward spiral and can affect everything you do! How does this happen, you ask? Everyone can have a slightly different answer, but it boils down to adding one thing after the other until it reaches the tipping point. It’s almost as if we live life unattended; like grazing cattle roaming in a pasture. When you look at it this way, it does not seem very empowering. At the very moment you felt overwhelmed, chances are, you didn’t knowingly “allow” this to happen. You did not give permission for this to occur. Let that marinate – you didn’t give permission! Permission is a request; a conscious act. It’s intentional. It’s when you agree and say ‘yes you may’. If you practice giving permission, you will have a much better opportunity of staying in control, and out of overwhelming.
Consider these three steps when a request is made; especially on your own behalf:

1. Set boundaries – decide what you can/can not or will not do. Like physical boundaries such as a fence or a wall, they are made to keep things in or out.
2. Evaluate the request – what does it mean (to you) and is it something you want or don’t want?
3. Consider the consequences – if you grant permission, what will it mean and are you in agreement; now and in the future?

While it may seem simple, this can be a powerful (and empowering) way to approach decision making. Remember – there is no permission in overwhelm.
Credit Source:
About Reginald G. Jackson, Sr.
As a Personal and Business Coach, he works with individuals, as well as groups, inspiring them to move outside their comfort zone and realize their greatness. His journey up to this point is interesting and quite diverse.  Having served in the Marine Corps for more than twenty years, he offers a unique blend of leadership, wisdom, and compassion. Over the span of his career, he trained, counseled, and mentored hundreds of Marines.  It was during that time he developed the insight and awareness that makes him such a powerful Coach.  Since retiring from the Corps in 2007, he has held leadership positions in the IT industry, to include consulting and project management.  Working with others and seeing “the light come on” is especially rewarding.
[/fusion_text][fusion_code]Jmx0O1NDUklQVCBjaGFyc2V0PSZxdW90O3V0Zi04JnF1b3Q7IHR5cGU9JnF1b3Q7dGV4dC9qYXZhc2NyaXB0JnF1b3Q7IHNyYz0mcXVvdDtodHRwOi8vd3MtZXUuYW1hem9uLWFkc3lzdGVtLmNvbS93aWRnZXRzL3E/U2VydmljZVZlcnNpb249MjAwNzA4MjImYW1wO01hcmtldFBsYWNlPUdCJmFtcDtJRD1WMjAwNzA4MjIlMkZHQiUyRm5vYmxtYW5oY29hY2wtMjElMkY4MDEwJTJGM2FmMjIwY2MtNjVlZi00ZDYxLWI0MmUtNjUwNjRiNmY0YjAyJmFtcDtPcGVyYXRpb249R2V0U2NyaXB0VGVtcGxhdGUmcXVvdDsmZ3Q7ICZsdDsvU0NSSVBUJmd0OyAmbHQ7Tk9TQ1JJUFQmZ3Q7Jmx0O0EgcmVsPSZxdW90O25vZm9sbG93JnF1b3Q7IEhSRUY9JnF1b3Q7aHR0cDovL3dzLWV1LmFtYXpvbi1hZHN5c3RlbS5jb20vd2lkZ2V0cy9xP1NlcnZpY2VWZXJzaW9uPTIwMDcwODIyJmFtcDtNYXJrZXRQbGFjZT1HQiZhbXA7SUQ9VjIwMDcwODIyJTJGR0IlMkZub2JsbWFuaGNvYWNsLTIxJTJGODAxMCUyRjNhZjIyMGNjLTY1ZWYtNGQ2MS1iNDJlLTY1MDY0YjZmNGIwMiZhbXA7T3BlcmF0aW9uPU5vU2NyaXB0JnF1b3Q7Jmd0O0FtYXpvbi5jby51ayBXaWRnZXRzJmx0Oy9BJmd0OyZsdDsvTk9TQ1JJUFQmZ3Q7[/fusion_code][fusion_pricing_table type=”2″ backgroundcolor=”” bordercolor=”” dividercolor=”” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” class=”” id=”” columns=”2″][fusion_pricing_column title=”SPONSORED BLOG POSTS” standout=”yes”][fusion_pricing_price currency=”” currency_position=”left” price=”£65.00″ time=”one-off fee” ][/fusion_pricing_price][fusion_pricing_row]For a one-off fee, you are able to submit your own post on the worlds’ largest coaching blog. [/fusion_pricing_row][fusion_pricing_footer][fusion_button link=”http://www.coaching-blog.com/contacts/” title=”Sign Up” target=”_self” alignment=”” modal=”” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” class=”” id=”” color=”default” button_gradient_top_color=”” button_gradient_bottom_color=”” button_gradient_top_color_hover=”” button_gradient_bottom_color_hover=”” accent_color=”” accent_hover_color=”” type=”” bevel_color=”” border_width=”” size=”” stretch=”default” shape=”” icon=”” icon_position=”left” icon_divider=”no” animation_type=”” animation_direction=”left” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_offset=””]Contact Us[/fusion_button][/fusion_pricing_footer][/fusion_pricing_column][fusion_pricing_column title=”WEBSITE ADVERTISING” standout=”yes”][fusion_pricing_price currency=”” currency_position=”left” price=”£250.00″ time=”three month slot” ][/fusion_pricing_price][fusion_pricing_row]Above the fold rotating banner/box. Price is for a 3 month slot.[/fusion_pricing_row][fusion_pricing_footer][fusion_button link=”http://www.coaching-blog.com/contacts/” title=”Sign Up” target=”_self” alignment=”” modal=”” hide_on_mobile=”small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility” class=”” id=”” color=”default” button_gradient_top_color=”” button_gradient_bottom_color=”” button_gradient_top_color_hover=”” button_gradient_bottom_color_hover=”” accent_color=”” accent_hover_color=”” type=”” bevel_color=”” border_width=”” size=”” stretch=”default” shape=”” icon=”” icon_position=”left” icon_divider=”no” animation_type=”” animation_direction=”left” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_offset=””]Contact Us[/fusion_button][/fusion_pricing_footer][/fusion_pricing_column][/fusion_pricing_table][/fusion_builder_column][/fusion_builder_row][/fusion_builder_container]