Think and Act to BE to BECOME

“Sow a thought, reap an act; sow an act, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.” –Peter Kreeft
and
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.” – Mahatma Gandhi
The above quotes are true on so many levels: Our hearts somehow know it is true, but recently research in neuroscience has confirmed the statement to be true – and vice versa. Our bodies and minds are so interconnected that the one affects the other.
There is even a cognitive triangle that one can work through when something happens to make sure our thoughts remain in sync with what we want. You can email me about this, if you want. The opposite is also true:
When we behave certain ways, our emotions and thoughts are affected. For this, we can look at Amy Cuddy’s research. http://amycuddy.com
So, remember to think and act how you want to feel. First, though, ask yourself some questions:
So, what do you want?
Today how are you going to do/get that?
What are you going to think and do?
What is your plan for the week?
Also, here are some pieces of advice for new CEOs (or owners), taken from a blog (and from my own ideas):
Do the work, be like the Nike commercial slogan (Act like a CEO)
Ask yourself , your employees and team, and your stakeholders great questions
• What three things do you want me to change?
• What three things do you want me to protect?
• What are you worried I might do?
• What do you want me to do?
• What else do you want to talk about?
Know the whys – why the other ceo left, why they picked you, why you chose the job
Get to know your team on – and off- the job
The same goes for the board
Survey the employees at the beginning of your mandate and then every 6 months or so, the same goes for the board, but only once a year, starting after the second board meeting)
And finally, think and act and move your body like a ceo: dress, habits, work
Some thoughts taken from: http://avc.com/2016/04/the-new-boss/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+AVc+%28A+VC%29
Remember we are what we think and act like more (even) than what we eat. It’s a chicken and egg kind of conundrum.
Finally here are some more things you can do, even if you are not a CEO (taken and embellished from here https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/246024 ):
Take your happiness from internals
It’s what you want – and you find a way to accomplish it, whether that it is a cake you baked, a room you painted, or some rocks balanced. Make sure you have control over what determines your happiness. This affects everything else.
Remember NOT to judge
Judging leads you down the wrong path. Instead ask those why questions and remember everyone is really trying their best with what they have.
Only say yes when you WANT to do it
Clear your calendar and list of things that you can say no to. Of course there are work jobs that must be done, but I mean those favors, etc. Delete the things that really drain you.
Keep to the two-one rule (two ears, one mouth)
Listening is more valuable than speaking. Questions are more valuable than advice. Just saying.
When you say something, be sure of it, or sure of your uncertainty
Say things with certainty, or offer your uncertainty in a way that says you are willing to learn. Sincerity is very essential.
Choose little victories
Those little vicotries feed into your happiness and self-assurance, making for a subtle, but noticeable change for the positive.
Keep your body healthy
We all know this. Start small and do not be too over zealous.
Don’t ask for attention
Nobody likes attention seekers. Instead:
Celebrate others and their victories. It’s FUN.
I was able to do that this past weekend- and I still am glowing with what happened—because of others!
Take risks.
When we do this the really exciting things happen! Without risks, there is no change. And…
Don’t’ be afraid of making a mistake or being wrong. We are all human.
We really do learn more from mistakes than from accidental successes, anyway.
Ask for help.
People are wired to help, and wired to need help, so ask for it. Learn from your experiences and have LOADS of fun along the way!
Have a great week full of adventures and learning!
Patricia Jehle
www.jehle-coaching.com
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