Coaching: My Style

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Here at the-Coaching Blog-run by Gerard O’Donovan, our aim is to constantly bring value to those seeking to improve their lives. Therefore we have a policy of publishing articles and materials by guest authors whom we value and appreciate. Today’s guest author is Ashutosh Tewari (India).
Is Style Important?
Coaching is the medium through which the coach ‘self – actuates’ his/her client into forward movement towards their agenda. Just as each client is unique and special, so is the coaching style. A coach may have a unique style or he may have a repertoire of styles. Style assumes importance because it facilitates the establishment of ‘rapport’ between the coach and the coachee as also helps the coach to make smoother and quicker progress. A coaching style which passes muster with the coachee is more likely to proceed well in forward direction. Therefore, coaching style assumes significance.
My Style: Designed on the Eastern Philosophy
As a coach, I have designed my style around a central theme of initially addressing the mind and the heart of the coachee and finally their very core/or being. I believe that the coachee operates on three levels. These are elucidated as under
The level of the Mind (logic). At this level, the client is full of confusion and needs clarity. This is achieved by a series of question answers which help the client to find some clarity. A well-structured questionnaire is most important to allow the client to wade through a maze of confusion.
The level of the Heart (beliefs).  Once the client has a fair degree of clarity at the level of the mind (logic), I take him further into the realm of the heart where most of the emotions reside. I believe that the heart matrix is the storehouse of all negative and positive feelings, vis pleasure-pain, good-bad, joy-sadness etc. all limiting and capability beliefs of an individual reside in the ‘heart matrix’ of the individual. At this level, I allow the client to come face to face with himself as if seeing himself in a mirror. My endeavor is to allow the client to take off his ‘mask’ and face up with his limiting beliefs, which prevent forward progress. Having dropped his mask(s), the client is better prepared to be the gardener of his life, wherein, he weeds out the limiting beliefs and sows the seeds of confidence and abilities.
The level of the Self/Being (Isness).Post the first two stages of confusion and limiting self-belief, I help the client to transcend to his true nature. It is like realizing one’s true potential. Once, the mask is off and the limiting belief is dropped all that is required for forward moment is a self-actuating mechanism which I call the ‘critical mass’. A client reaches critical mass when he lives in the light of his true capability and potential and not under the shadow of doubts. It is a stage where external inputs do not deter the client from taking action. It is the stage of action without motive. The client simply takes the step; not the least being concerned about its outcome. He now focuses on the journey and not the result. Now, the client is ready to walk alone.
The essence of Eastern Philosophy and Vedanta is ISNESS and UNITY. The moment the client is clear that emotions, setbacks, and failures etc. are temporary reflections of the mind and have nothing to do with his true identity of infinite potential, the critical mass is reached and the individual becomes free for the first time to walk in his own light. This process takes the client from confusion to clarity, then to self-belief and then finally to the stage of living in the light of your true potential (Isness).
My Tools
The Eastern Philosophy is full of scriptures which provide deep insight into the inner world of unity and Isness. Stories, parables, and techniques from Zen, Tao and Vedanta literature provide the necessary tools to make the structure and framework which is tailor-made for a client. My tools help the client move from the outer to the inner and from the inner to his very being which is existence, absolute and bliss.
Conclusion
This three-tiered approach to move from the mind to the heart and finally to the self-has helped many to understand their true potential. It’s like teaching a person to catch fish. I believe that till the client reaches his critical mass he will need a coach again and again. My style reduces the dependence on coaches and enables the client to eventually become his own coach permanently.
AshutoshTewari
Certified Personal Transformation and Master Spirit Life Coach
Symbiosis Coaching, Canada
Email – ashutosh@designinglives.in
Website – www.designinglives.in
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